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"Is There Anything You'd Like to Ask Me?"
"Is There Anything You'd Like to Ask Me?" The inevitable question: Him: Is there anything you’d like to ask me? No, there isn’t. If there was, I’d have IMed you to do so. This is ALWAYS because men have given absolutely NO thought whatsoever as to where to take the conversation once it gets started. There is always a specific moment where this question comes up ... it is always early in the conversation, immediately after the checklist questions. You know what I mean by "checklist questions" … How are you today? What are you up to? What are you looking for? What do you do for a living? Do you have pics? ...uh oh, out of questions to ask... Umm, is there anything you’d like to ask me? As the guy, MAN UP and take the lead. You initiated the conversation, the burden is on you to carry that conversation. This is a clumsy attempt at sidestepping a social responsibility that you shouldn't be trying to sidestep in the first place! You need more than a few basic questions to get things flowing. None of those questions open up conversation in any meaningful way. There’s just not enough range of possible responses to get things moving. These are all questions that universally get met with vague and guarded responses. The perennial problem in chatting with women online is how to make conversation out of nothing. It isn’t the easiest skill in the world to master, nor does it come natural to most people. Especially when dealing with someone who has no pic and a vague profile, the cards are really stacked against you. However, I’ve tried it and it CAN be done. I gave my specific thought process in this post – Play by Play of How I Have Conversations. Included in that is how to handle monosyllabic grunt-like responses. Maybe you don’t like my approach, I don’t claim to have the only successful method, but having no method at all is guaranteed failure. You simply cannot fall back on "Is there anything you’d like to ask me?" to bail you out of a mess of a conversation you created by your lack of forethought. |
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Okay I'm so glad this is not just me. I every time i get this I feel like I'm less curious then everyone else if they're expecting me to ask more.
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4/24/2017 12:54 pm |
Is there anything we could ask you??? (Smiles)
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well written
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Reiterating: NO! There is NOTHING I want to ask you!
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